Why Family Matters
Why Family Matters
Your immediate family matters because it is the very essence of what you
are as a human being, it is all you ever knew and you are what you are
because of them.
You can try to create a stronger bond with your family members. If you are
all grown up and married with families of your own, it may be time to
reconnect. You don’t have the hang-ups you did when you were all young
kids in a family and your roles have all changed. Communication may be
awkward, so reconnecting on a family vacation may be just the thing to start
over. Your parents are getting older and it may be some of the best
memories your own kids can have with their grandparents before they are
gone.
Maybe you have the other kind of family: you guys are so close you’re
smothering each other. You never did anything without consulting your
sister, and the same with her consulting you. You have very close ties, but
maybe it’s time you set boundaries. You’re grownups with your own families
and, while the closeness also bought the cousins together, it’s made you and
your sister glued at the hip.
Taking a separate path may be just the thing. Explain that you are not leaving
her in the lurch, but explain to your sister that you and your family are
having some private family time and you’d appreciate a call before she just
drops in with her family. Explain that you’d like a little warning and that it
isn’t always a good time for you. Tactfulness will make this work and you just
have to expect a few hurt feelings from your sister. Just reassure your sister
that you are not rejecting her, and maybe she will start to realize that she
can relax and enjoy her own family as well.
Your own new family matters because it is the reason why you chose to form
a family unit in the first place. Spend time getting to know everyone at the
place they are. Your kids are growing and are changing every time you look.
Express gratitude for them and really love them. They will return in kind.
Nesting with your family is the best way to spend time together. It won’t be
too long before your children are grown and spending time with their new
families. Spend some quality time together with your spouse. Maybe even
go on a “date” to reconnect. Soon it will be just the two of you again, make
sure there is something to continue on with. It’s too easy to grow apart.
Your immediate family matters because it is the very essence of what you
are as a human being, it is all you ever knew and you are what you are
because of them.
You can try to create a stronger bond with your family members. If you are
all grown up and married with families of your own, it may be time to
reconnect. You don’t have the hang-ups you did when you were all young
kids in a family and your roles have all changed. Communication may be
awkward, so reconnecting on a family vacation may be just the thing to start
over. Your parents are getting older and it may be some of the best
memories your own kids can have with their grandparents before they are
gone.
Maybe you have the other kind of family: you guys are so close you’re
smothering each other. You never did anything without consulting your
sister, and the same with her consulting you. You have very close ties, but
maybe it’s time you set boundaries. You’re grownups with your own families
and, while the closeness also bought the cousins together, it’s made you and
your sister glued at the hip.
Taking a separate path may be just the thing. Explain that you are not leaving
her in the lurch, but explain to your sister that you and your family are
having some private family time and you’d appreciate a call before she just
drops in with her family. Explain that you’d like a little warning and that it
isn’t always a good time for you. Tactfulness will make this work and you just
have to expect a few hurt feelings from your sister. Just reassure your sister
that you are not rejecting her, and maybe she will start to realize that she
can relax and enjoy her own family as well.
Your own new family matters because it is the reason why you chose to form
a family unit in the first place. Spend time getting to know everyone at the
place they are. Your kids are growing and are changing every time you look.
Express gratitude for them and really love them. They will return in kind.
Nesting with your family is the best way to spend time together. It won’t be
too long before your children are grown and spending time with their new
families. Spend some quality time together with your spouse. Maybe even
go on a “date” to reconnect. Soon it will be just the two of you again, make
sure there is something to continue on with. It’s too easy to grow apart.
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